Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Blue Jean Baby

Blue Jean Baby


Nico shot up over the summer while he was in shorts. I knew he was growing, but I didn't notice quite how much. He's now as tall or taller than all his playmates, who range from a few months older to nearly a year older than he is, and some of those kids chart tall for their ages. I'm interested to see where he charts at his next well child visit. Anyway, when I got out his fall clothes I discovered that the 2T pants he wasn't quite big enough for at the end of the winter are now too short. Luckily, we have been the recipients of a lot of hand-me-downs, so I had a big tub of 3T clothes waiting in the closet. I prefer to dress Nico in clothes that are basically miniature versions of adult clothes. He hasn't worn a onesie since he turned one, and I only put him in floppy sweatpants if he needs something to sleep or nap in and pjs aren't handy. So ever since he had jeans that fit, he's been in jeans and little T-shirts. This season, though, none of the jeans we have fit him. I think the problem is that he's 3T-tall but still has a 2-year-old Buddha belly. I don't know if we got our hand-me-downs from exceptionally skinny kids or if kids are expected to be skinny by age three (or both), but Nico can't fit into any of the super cute jeans in his bin. Luckily, he has quite a few pairs of nice lined pants with pockets that look almost jeans-like and some REALLY cute structured cargo pants that I have already fallen in love with and want to put on him every day. Maybe we will survive our jeans-free season without resorting to sweatpants after all.

I am having similar wardrobe problems myself these days. I can still comfortably fit into the jeans I bought post-Nico which had gotten too big right before I got pregnant, and I have a pair of long khaki-colored pants and a pair of khaki-colored capri-length pants with yoga-pants type waistbands that I can wear for work when needed. Other than that, I've been making do with creative application of bella bands and long shirts while I'm still not big enough for full stretchy-panel maternity pants. Last pregnancy I made it through with several really cute under-belly style pairs of jeans and corduroys that my awesome friend Rachel sent me, but this time I'm finding my belly region isn't quite as firm as it was for round one. Oh, cruel gravity / time / deflation! Maybe those pants plus a bella band? We'll see. In the meantime, I'm just trying my best to look pregnant rather than full of burritos and not dress like a fashion victim.

I did finally get an official bump photo for this one's baby book other blog where I post schmoopy letters since I know better than to think I'd keep up with a baby book. The trilobite and transport at 16 weeks, 5 days:


I'm 18 weeks now and just last night officially decided that rumpus I was feeling while lying flat in bed was the baby and not digestion. With Nico I had an anterior placenta and had to wait until 22 weeks to feel anything and then it was just the slightest of nudges for quite some time. Hooray for evidence of continued habitation! So far the kid has been such a model tenant that I forget he or she is there sometimes. No loud parties, no trash on the lawn, no late night guests. I might owe a security deposit back when all this is over.


Reading:  Odd Apocalypse by Dean Koontz

Playing:  Howl by Black Rebel Motorcycle Club

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Still here

Trucking along, having some fun, forgetting to blog. Soon, I hope!

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Love-Hate

Love-Hate


Things I Hate

1. I'm so incredibly bummed out that FX isn't offering a season pass for Sons of Anarchy on iTunes like so many other shows do for non-cable-having folks. Seriously, I WANT TO GIVE YOU MY MONEY. Please take my money. I just want my slightly dirty criminally-inclined hot biker fix, is that so much to ask?

2. People who wait through an entire red light before putting on their left turn signal. If you coast up to a red light and stop without putting on your signal, I'm going to guess that you're planning to keep going straight after the light turns green and I'm going to coast up behind you. If you signal left, I'll change lanes so I can be on my way. When you wait until the light turns green, then slowly roll forward six inches and turn on your signal, it honestly makes me want to punch you in the face. Generic "you," of course, since I'm sure no one I actually talk to does this…right?

3. When companies send emails with big exciting Huge Special Exclusive Awesome Sale! subject lines that turn out to be advertising 10 or 15% off. Sorry, retailers, I'm not going to run straight out to spend money after being inspired by your amazing 10% off offer.

Things I Love

1. The Ben & Jerry's 3.6 ounce single-serving cups. Every time I buy a pint, I end up absent-mindedly eating way more than my allotted fourth of the carton and not noticing until I feel slightly sick. I just wish our grocery carried more flavors in the tiny size, though I'm immensely pleased that I can get Cherry Garcia and Chocolate Fudge Brownie. Add Phish Food and I'm set for life.

2. The fact that I left a plate with a hot tuna and cheese sandwich on the arm of the couch and went to get Nico a cup of milk and came back to an intact sandwich. Indy did not steal it off the plate or even lick it while I left it unattended, even though he'll materialize at my feet begging the instant I open a can of tuna. Gold star, pooch!

3. My kid is becoming such a little person these days. There are still, thank goodness, moments and flashes of baby, but he's also this interesting, funny, chatty person and it blows my mind. And he shot up so much over the summer that his 2T jeans are high waters and all of a sudden his shoes got too small. So this week he's in 3T pants and size 9 shoes and he just looks so big. So big. It's not helping that I put him on a preschool waiting list for January this afternoon just in case we decide he's ready for some kind of big boy activity to keep him busy and feeling special while I'm occupied with the impending interloper.

4. This made me laugh so hard, mostly because you just know he got back up and did it again:



From Animals Being Dicks, of course.


Reading:  Will Grayson, Will Grayson by John Green and David Levithan

Playing:  Nico's mix, mostly. He's very demanding persuasive.

Sunday, September 09, 2012

September already?

September already?


Nico was overtired yesterday evening and ended up going to bed about 45 minutes early, so I decided to take advantage of the unexpected extra time and get some organizing done in our bedroom. I've been buying things here and there for months with the intention of saving them for Nico for Christmas, but I never remember what all I've bought. I pulled everything out of my closet and down from the catch-all storage bookcase, consolidated everything into two boxes for storage, and made a list in my phone of everything I have. By the time I got done with that, MB had dozed off on the couch. I was rolling along pretty well and didn't want to waste good decluttering momentum, so I decided to tackle organizing and decluttering the storage bookcase and the top of my dresser. The dresser-top felt particularly important because that's where we are planning to move the printer. Right now our router (I was going to say modem and really had to think about whether that was correct. Am old.), printer, stack of printer paper, and our Apple airport thingie are all on an end table in the guest room, and they'll need a new home once the guest room becomes a baby room.



I don't really love the idea of putting the giant printer on my dresser, mostly because I'm selfish and like being able to pile clothes there that fall into the "wore it but not enough to require washing" category. I also keep a small laundry basket up there as a holding facility for Nico's clean clothes since I almost always do laundry after he's in bed. I guess the clothes-piling could continue even with a printer taking up half, but Nico's basket would have to go somewhere else. If we do end up using the dresser for all the printery stuff, I'm thinking it might be nice to get some kind of two-tiered storage shelf so we can stack the printer on top of all the other stuff and save space. Another option might be to put a little shelf or cart thing in that space between the dresser and the wall, where MB currently piles his work clothes (he takes those back to work and turns them in to a laundry service). I think we could squeeze another small hamper into his closet along with our regular one, but he might not like that idea too much. So it'll come down to my space to pile clothes preference versus his how many hampers in the closet preference, I suppose. What do other people do who have a printer but no home office space?



After I got the dresser and bookcase done, I moved on to the stacked-up boxes along our bedroom wall, where they've been since way back when I cleaned out our hoarder-room and turned it into Nico's playroom. Apparently I am a rank amateur and yet again neglected to take any "before" pictures, thus robbing myself of the satisfaction of proving how much work I did. Here's a photo from the second-to-last phase of the process, after all the boxes were sorted but before I started moving them down to the basement:



I had originally planned to keep only the sentimental bits and pieces I could fit into one storage tub, but I ended up with a bunch of stuff that I didn't feel was important enough to go into long-term storage in the attic but that I also wasn't quite ready to throw out. It's that category of stuff that has stalled me on this project at least twice, so this time I decided to cut myself a little slack. I did get rid of a few boxes of stuff, between the Goodwill pile and the recycle pile and the throw-away pile. The not-precious but not-worthless stuff only filled one office paper box after all, which feels pretty reasonable. That box, a box of games and electronics stuff that I wasn't sure about, a box of photo frames and photo albums with no homes, and a box of papers to sort and file went down to be stored in the basement. That left me with only what you see in the photo below, which is such an improvement. The boxes to the left in this picture are full of things destined to be consigned, posted to Craigslist for sale, or donated to Goodwill. The green tub is the definitely-keeping keepsakes box and is going to the attic. The boxes on top of the green tub are full of odds and ends that need to be distributed to other parts of the house. The blue tub over on the far right and the box on top of it are maternity clothes that I don't quite need yet.



Looking at this, I'm realizing the windows look weird and bare. We had two-tier white old lady curtains that came with the house up until about six months ago when I finally got sick of how much dust and dog hair they collected, took them down to wash them, and never put them back up. I don't really care all that much about window treatments and wouldn't mind keeping the bare blinds indefinitely, but I think MB prefers curtains. Someday maybe we'll get around to de-wallpapering our room and painting, and then we can buy or have my mom make curtains to match. In the meantime, no one is going to see the windows but us, so I'm not too concerned. And oh, God, that dreamcatcher is really tacky and embarrassing and cringeworthy, right? Every time I take a picture in there I think about taking it down, but I got it in Arizona when I was twelve, during the biggest family vacation my parents ever took us on, and I can't help myself, I'm ridiculously sentimentally attached to it.

This huge project has never just been about getting rid of stuff. That's part of it, obviously, but it's more about learning to occupy less space. It's about living in a way that is better for Nico, who needs room to grow, and for MB, who feels stressed and unhappy in a cluttered environment. I guess ultimately it's about appreciating who is in my life more than what is in it, as horribly schmoopy as that sounds. So when I finished around 11:45, even though my back was achy and I had dust up my nose, I felt like playing a triumphant anthem and doing a victory lap. Piece by piece, it's getting done.

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

This and that

This and that


I can't decide if I'm just unusually boring lately or if this is a typical late-summer blogging funk. It is the lazy days for me…too hot and buggy to do anything outside, summer camps have ended at work but school field trips haven't started, even our swimming lessons are taking a two-week break. Time for some bullet points and pictures, yes? Yes.

Audrey II

I planted snake gourd for fun and then it took over the whole front of the garden and pissed me off. I mean, seriously:


I started to trim them back two Saturdays ago and then decided nope, not doing this anymore. I ripped them all out and once I started pulling six-foot-long roots out from under the fence, I figured this was the right decision. This was a full-on hostile takeover. I swear, as long as I shall live, no more experimental gourds.

Adventures

One of Nico's little buddies had a fire station birthday party this past Friday evening. The party was from 6 - 8 pm so I was kind of worried, but it actually went really well. First they had a firefighter in full turnout come in to visit to show the kids that they shouldn't be scared. Nico was having none of it and turned to me after just a few minutes and loudly announced, "Go back in the car. Want to get back in the car!" He calmed down after the firefighter took off his helmet and mask, though he remained skeptical. Next they had another firefighter visit wearing a dalmatian mascot head and much to my surprise, Nico actually liked him. He wouldn't go meet him up close, but once the mascot left, N kept asking "Where the fire dog?" After the fire dog we went downstairs to see the trucks and then we got to go for a fire engine ride. Nico was not sure at first, but he ended up loving it and we got to go twice. Definitely going in the books as a success. He's such a watch-and-wait kind of kid - he's a lot like me, really - so getting him to try new things is always a challenge. I never want to be that mom who's forcing her kid to go on rides that terrify him, for example, but I also don't want him to miss out on stuff he will genuinely like because he's hesitant to try. It's always such a great feeling when I figure out just the right amount to push and Nico gets to enjoy the results.



We also went to the huge local pool with fancy spray park this past Sunday. We had a free pass leftover from MB's company picnic back in June and Nico's still free, so he and I spent the morning there. After we battled through the eating-breakfast fit, the sunscreen fit, and the getting-dressed fit. Once we got out of the house, though, he was really great and we had a pretty wonderful time. He's a stormy one, my boy, but at least his tempests tend to pass quickly. Oh, and how I wish I had a photo of him in the actual pool. I'm a pretty low-key non-hovery mom most of the time, but I'm sure at the pool I look like a lunatic. I had Nico in a rash guard, a sun hat, and his Puddle Jumper. It was like the summer equivalent of the younger brother's snow gear in A Christmas Story. I'll take the pool side-eye as it comes, though…we may be low-key but we do not dick around with sun protection in this pale, pale family.





Books

I don't know if it's because I'm reading YA fiction or because not blogging gives me lots of time, but I've continued my late summer trend of ripping through books. We took seven books back to the library yesterday and they were all mine. Recent reads and quick impressions:

( 1 ) Girl of Nightmares by Kendare Blake (sequel to Anna Dressed in Blood) - good though not as good as the first. Not as fast-paced or high-action and not as creepy overall, though one scene late in the book was seriously freaking me out. I like how the author resolved the story and while I don't think you NEED to read this one, I don't think it will diminish anyone's pleasant feelings about the first book.

( 2 ) Paper Towns by John Green - Really good, extremely well-written. It's hard to find books with strong, realistic, non-irritating teenage characters, but he nails it. This one was almost as good as The Fault in Our Stars, but that one is going to be really, really hard to match. I'm already looking forward to reading another John Green book.

( 3 ) Story of a Girl by Sara Zarr - extremely solid, another well-written YA book with a teenage protagonist that never grates or gets shrill. Didn't love it as much as How to Save a Life but it's solid and I'll be looking for more of her books, too.

Brief baby-growing report

Still pregnant, but still not feeling very pregnant. Looking more fat than maternal, unfortunately. Eating an embarrassing quantity of Arby's roast beef sandwiches and Kix cereal. Grateful that things have been really, really boring so far.


Reading:  The Down and Dirty Guide to Camping with Kids by Helen Olsson

Playing:  the Brave soundtrack

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Free

Free


I have long been a fan of both freecycle and craigslist. While it's true that one has to be on the lookout for potential creepers and that a lot of people are flakes (and others are just plain rude), my experience over the past however-many years has been really positive overall.

Sometime last year, my dad and I drove almost an hour, across the state line, to get a truckload of bricks from a lady who was restoring a house. The house was probably a hundred years old, a big farmhouse type of thing. They'd bought it for a song and then saw it gutted by a fire. During the renovation, they tore out two brick chimneys and we were allowed to haul off as much as we could carry. The house had a rebuilt wooden staircase up to the second floor, but the floorboards in front of where the chimney had been constituted the extent of the floor up there. The rest was naked rafters and a clear view down to the first floor. The bricks were streaked with soot and even now, more than a year later, if the breeze is just right out in the garden, I'll catch the smell of smoke.

This past Spring, I got more bricks from one of the most interesting people I've ever encountered. She was a tiny woman, skinny as a teenager but in her late 60s if she was a day. She answered the door dressed in a wifebeater tank and smelling of cats and cigarettes, old cutting scars silvery on her arms, a pentacle on a chain around her neck and a dozen hoops in each ear. She was the first person to ever correctly identify the Green Man pendant I wear. As we loaded bricks in her backyard - a Secret Garden-like place with a dry in-ground pool full of green growing things - the words spilled out. She'd just lost her partner, a woman she'd been with for something like 50 years, after a long illness. "It's weird," she mused, "how a house will grow on you all of a sudden. Now that it's just me, it's just too big. Too empty." She was planning to pull up stakes and move to Florida. She asked a little wistfully if my dad and I did a lot of gardening together, since I'd told her I was planning to use the bricks to build raised beds for vegetables. She talked about the gardens she'd known as a child growing up in Scotland. As we worked, I quietly admired the huge sun-bleached seashells she had lined up along the edge of the overgrown flowerbeds, trying to work up the guts to ask if she was planning to take those to Florida. If she wasn't, I wanted to ask if I could take a few. As if my thought sparked a memory, she started to collect them and move them to the porch, telling us how she and her partner had brought all of the shells back from a trip to Jamaica in the 1980s, how the people on the plane had looked at them like they were nuts. If life were like a movie, I realized, this woman and I would strike up an unlikely friendship and she'd tell me her life story over coffee or whatever. But since life isn't a movie, we finished loading our bricks, I sincerely wished her luck on her move, and I never saw her again.

Then a week ago, I met up with a guy who had posted that he had a big animal skull he wanted to trade. "I don't want money," his ad said. "I want to see what I can barter this for instead. So if you have something cool or useful like a guitar or a mini fridge, let's talk." We had a countertop fridge at work that my supervisor was trying to get rid of, so I told her I'd take it. After quite a few misses and reschedules, Nico and I met up with the guy at a gas station a week ago Sunday and I traded him an old brown mini fridge for a big old cow skull. And you know what? The guy was completely, utterly normal. He was an average normal guy with a normal pretty wife who showed up in a silver CR-V with two carseats in the back. And I was just normal (enough) me, driving my CR-V with my toddler in the back. Neither of us were weird or creepy or faux Gothy or anything one might assume about people who arranged a trade for a skull on craigslist.

A lot of my love for freecycle and craigslist is the thrill of getting good stuff for free or very cheap, some of it is the chance to get rid of stuff guilt-free, but always, my favorite part seems to be the people. They remind me over and over that the world is absolutely full of stories, if you just give them a chance to find you.


Reading:  Paper Towns by John Green

Playing:  the Brave soundtrack

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Welcome back

Welcome back


Well, that was an awkwardly long bit of hang-time for that last post. Unintentional, I promise. First, my trial month of the blogging client I've been using expired and I kept forgetting to renew it. Then Nico slept terribly for nearly a week, which meant that I also slept terribly. He'd wake up crying once, twice, up to four times - always between 11:30 and 1:30. I'd go in and rock him, change his diaper if needed, put him back in his crib, and just as I was drifting off to sleep, the whole thing would start over. Several nights in a row, he ended up in our bed for the last few hours of sleep, which is fine in that we all three slept great but not so fine in that it's really not a habit I want to encourage. Once or twice a month, bring on the cuddles. More than that and I feel like we're setting a precedent we'll regret. He's already a horrible bed-hog; I can't imagine what it'll be like after his next big growth spurt. And speaking of growth spurts, I noticed earlier this past week that Nico's shoulders are suddenly creeping past the top strap slots of his carseat (which means he's outgrown the one in MB's car, too) and placed the most expensive, most budgetarily traumatizing Amazon order of my life. Holla, Britax Frontier! I'm not usually into getting the most posh, high-end product possible, but I was advised that it's the best seat for kids who are off-the-charts tall and I'd love to have this seat last until he's old enough to just sit in the car on his own skinny butt. (We ordered a less-posh seat for MB's car since he's only in it once a week or so. I am not made of money, child.)

Anyway, the aforementioned sleep-fuckery resulted in me being brain-meltingly exhausted by the end of each day and good for not much more than poking around online and watching Netflix. And my final reason for radio silence is that I couldn't talk about the biggest thing going these days, which meant it was hard to think of anything to talk about at all.


We liked the first kid so much, we're having another! I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow, due February 25. I'm excited, a little bit terrified, and quite frequently starving. I'm hoping very sincerely for another completely boring, uneventful pregnancy. I'm looking forward to having a baby belly again instead of what I've got going now, which mostly looks like I really need to lay off the burritos. My mom surprised me with three pairs of really cute new maternity jeans, and we exchanged a fourth pair that didn't fit for some new shirts. We've told work and friends and family. Nico doesn't really know much yet. We haven't pushed it because I didn't want him telling people before we were ready and it's still a little early anyway. Mostly he was disappointed that he wasn't allowed to wear the shirt pictured above after we put him in it to clue my parents in around 9 weeks. I figure we'll answer his questions if any arise and then once we know if it's a baby brother or a baby sister we can start talking it up to him. I think he'll be a really great big brother as long as he doesn't kill us with two-and-a-half-ness before this next one is born. Two kids. Two kids! Unreal.


Reading:  Girl of Nightmares by Kendare Blake

Playing:  August and Everything After by Counting Crows

Thursday, August 02, 2012

Friday Fiction

Friday Fiction


To give credit where it's due, Jett Superior shared a photo that I loved on Twitter a while back. I replied: "I feel like there's a deep (if short) story there, if only we could decipher it!" She said, "Maybe you should just use that photo as a prompt and write it. I'd love to see what comes of that." And so I did. I'm sure this one could use another round of strong-arm editing, but I feel like it's time to let it fly for a bit and then see how it shapes up.

Shekinah

      Marcus Abernathy had never been one for favors, but when an old fraternity brother called and asked him for one, it was harder than usual to refuse. Harris Chappell had just been elected governor and handed a monster of an in-progress highway project. A new interstate was being cut through the length of the state and Chappell had campaigned on a promise that he could get it done fast, right, and fairly. Abernathy had made a career out of smoothing the way for land acquisition for construction projects. Usually it was fairly straightforward - negotiate an acceptable deal between a municipality and a subdivision developer, line up incentives to lure a shopping mall to a nearly-abandoned strip of farmland on the edge of a growing city. This job, though, promised to be a little more delicate. The next phase was a major interchange with an existing highway just north of a small rural town that had offered serious opposition from the beginning. Out-lobbied and out-shouted by larger cities who didn’t want the highway either, the townspeople had eventually caved and the affected families were starting to sell, but tensions were high and the governor wanted someone on site to keep things from blowing up. Abernathy was looking forward to a few quiet years of semi-retirement before he called it quits for good. He was 57 years old, still relatively fit, hoping for a few good decades to enjoy himself. The project seemed pretty straightforward - shake some hands, hand out some reassurances, and hang out for a few months to maintain a semblance of government presence - so he finally agreed.

      By the time Abernathy arrived in the tiny town of Hedges, there was only one holdout, an eighth generation farmer named Jessup McTiernan who owned 600 acres of field and timber and steadfastly refused to yield. His ancestors had carved the farm out of the wild country, worked it into something worth having. They’d been born there, died there, and were buried there. McTiernan was twenty five years old, married, with an Ag Ec degree from Purdue. Abernathy set up a meeting with McTiernan and his wife, held on supposedly neutral ground at the town’s tiny administration building. He made sure he arrived first and waited in the small, nondescript conference room. The McTiernans arrived five minutes early and were shown in by one of the mayor’s aides. Jessup was tall and lean, dressed in work-worn boots, jeans, and a long-sleeved plaid shirt despite the heat. He removed his John Deere ball cap as he entered the room, revealing close-cropped black hair and startling pale gray eyes. His wife Amelia was tiny and blonde, her pretty face hardened with concern. She was pregnant, the swell of her belly filling out the front of her light cotton dress.
      Abernathy stood and offered his hand to husband and wife in turn. “Thank you for coming. I’m Marcus Abernathy. Please, sit down.”
      Once they were seated, he slid a manila folder across the table to each of them. “As I told you on the phone, I’m here to serve as a mediator between you and the state. It’s my job to try to look out for everyone’s best interests and find a solution that suits everyone.”
      His speech was mostly bullshit and he suspected the McTiernans knew it. As they went over the paperwork that all of them had seen before, Abernathy found Jessup polite in that way country people tended to be, but there was steel underneath. Amelia was mostly just angry and he could tell an outburst was simmering beneath the surface of her chilly civility. Everything about the state’s offer was offensive. The money they were offering barely covered the paper-value of the land and made no reparations for the crops, the timber, or the mineral rights. McTiernan was completely justified in being furious and had taken every right and legal step to defend what was his.
      Worst of all, Abernathy found he genuinely liked the man and wanted nothing more than to hand him back his family’s land. The section the state wanted would cut a swath right through the core of the property, leveling the house, bisecting the cropland, ripping out the two oil wells drilled in the 1970s, and destroying over half the timber acres the family had kept mostly uncut since the 1800s. The McTiernans rejected the state’s offer yet again, and Abernathy himself went to the governor with a proposed adjustment to the route that would save the house and slice off the edge of the property instead of cutting out its heart. The highway commissioner rejected it immediately, angry after months of delays.

      After a judge ruled that the state had the right to seize what it wanted through eminent domain and a second judge upheld the ruling despite McTiernan’s lawyer’s appeal, Abernathy insisted on being present when the eviction notice was served. A pair of state policemen had been sent to handle the situation when the commissioner had decided the local sheriff wasn’t aggressive enough, and they were fed up with the stubborn farmer and ready to work out some frustration. Abernathy rode in the back of the squad car, his stomach giving an unpleasant lurch as they passed between the two massive, gnarled white oaks that marked the entrance to the property. Angling the cruiser in to park in the grass near the front porch the nastier cop, Chandler, got out and hustled ahead, clearly hoping to cut off Abernathy’s attempt at diplomacy. McTiernan had anticipated the visit and stood in the open doorway, feet braced wide and arms folded across his chest.
      “Time’s up,” Chandler said, thrusting the eviction notice out in front of him. “You’ve got thirty days to pack up and clear out.” When McTiernan made no move to take the paper, Chandler reached over and stapled it to the wood-sided front wall of the house. Every chunk of the silver staple gun felt like a punch in Abernathy’s gut. As Chandler finished and stepped back with a smirk, there was a flurry of movement in the doorway. Amelia darted past her husband, her face contorted with rage. “You son of a bitch!” she shrieked as McTiernan caught her under the arms, yanking her back just before she was able to get at Chandler. “You rotten, thieving son of a bitch!”
      “Let her take a swing, cowboy,” Chandler sneered as his partner Laramie laughed.
      Abernathy felt his own hands clench into fists as Amelia spat and swore.
      When McTiernan finally spoke, his voice was low and dangerous. “Get off my land.”
      “It’s not yours much longer,” Laramie told him.
      “But it’s mine today. So get back in your car and leave.”

      With the last legal obstacle cleared, things proceeded quickly. Heavy equipment rumbled up and down the road to the McTiernan farm, widening the gravel road and laying pathways for the destruction that was to come. Two weeks after the eviction notice, a half dozen local men in pickup trucks rattled up the rutted road pulling empty flatbeds behind them. Abernathy saw them drive by from the window of his miserable office trailer and hopped into the car to follow them up. The men were loading up everything the McTiernans deemed worth saving as Amelia directed traffic in the front room. Abernathy rolled up his sleeves and joined the flow of work without a word, helping haul out boxed-up dishes and papers, duffel bags of clothes, all the sundry things that make a life and never get noticed until someone has to move them. It was heartbreaking to load up furniture and carefully wrapped quilts handed down through generations of people who’d only ever wanted to stay. When a pair of men came down the front stairs carefully carrying a spindle-sided baby crib between them, Amelia broke. She sank to the floor as sobs wracked her body and McTiernan came to her, knelt and hugged her to his chest, rocking her as she wailed. Abernathy turned away, busied himself with carrying another stack of boxes from the room.
      All the household goods were delivered to a storage unit on the edge of town and Abernathy heard from the sheriff that Amelia and Jessup had decided to stay with Amelia’s sister for a little while. But a few days later Jessup was back at the farm, his dusty truck parked next to the ramshackle white barn like always. One evening after the construction guys had cleared out for the day, Abernathy made the drive up to the house. He found McTiernan sitting on the front steps, halfway through a bottle of whiskey.
      No greeting seemed appropriate so he finally settled for “Hey.”
      McTiernan grunted and offered the whiskey bottle. Abernathy accepted, settling down on edge of the porch and taking a deep pull. “Look,” he said finally, handing the bottle back. “I am truly sorry for how this all turned out. It’s not what I wanted.”
      “I know,” McTiernan said. “Thank you for trying.”
      They sat in silence for a few minutes, staring off across the gently swaying corn to the rich green of the treetops beyond. Cicadas whirred, filling the evening with their hum. The smell of rich soil and fresh cut hay hung in the air.
      “I wouldn’t want to leave here either,” Abernathy said after a bit, feeling utterly wretched.
      “I’m not leaving.”
      “Jessup, you don’t have a choice. If you don’t go willingly, they will arrest you and drag you away. Think of Amelia and the baby if you won’t think of yourself.”
      “You don’t understand,” McTiernan said. “The land is our blood. Without it, we don’t have anything. No family, no home.” He took a long drink from his bottle and wiped his mouth with the back of his hand. “I was born here, did you know that?”
      Abernathy shook his head, aching with the misery of the moment.
      “It’s true. I was born right up there, in the front bedroom. And I buried my dad here after he died. I’m supposed to die here and be buried here and hand this all down to my son. I’m not supposed to end up raising my boy in a rental house in the middle of town and working under a roof all day.”
      “I know. It’s horrible.”
      “I don’t think you know. I think you want to understand, but I don’t think you do.”

      Once the construction foreman figured out Jessup was back, he enacted a policy of constant harassment. Nothing Abernathy said to him or relayed back to the governor made any difference. The sheriff’s hands were tied, jurisdiction firmly resting with the state police. Construction equipment encroached closer and closer to the house each day, drivers blasting music and blaring horns and revving engines. One afternoon a driver got a little too bold and pulled his wheel loader through the oaks, probably planning to tear up the grass or God knows what. Before he got thirty feet past the property line, his windshield spiderwebbed in front of his face, cracked by a bullet from McTiernan’s rifle. He turned the machine around and fled, and by the time Abernathy got word of it and raced up to intervene the foreman had gone up to the house to raise hell. When Abernathy arrived the foreman was standing between the oaks, swearing and screaming. McTiernan stood fifty yards away, the rifle in his hands.
      “What the hell are you doing?” Abernathy called out, frustration mounting.
      “This is still my land.”
      “For four more days!” the foreman shouted. “Four fucking days, McTiernan, and then I’m going to drive a fucking bulldozer over you myself if you’re not gone.”
      Abernathy pulled out his cell phone and dialed the sheriff. “You have to get Amelia up here to talk some sense into him. Someone’s going to get killed.”
      Amelia came and went. Jessup stayed. Abernathy flagged Amelia down as she drove past the trailer on her way back to town. She slowed to a stop and rolled down her window. Her eyes were red and swollen from crying. “His mind is made up, Mr. Abernathy. I don’t expect you to understand.”
      “I don’t think he understands. Someone’s going to die up here, Amelia.”
      “Without this land he’s as good as dead anyway.”

      It rained for three days and kept things quiet. The fourth day dawned clear, the last day before the land became state property. Abernathy had barely settled in at his desk when he heard tires on the gravel. Glancing up, he saw the foreman’s truck and the state cop cruiser roll by with a bulldozer rumbling along behind. Chest tight with panic, he ran to his car to follow. At the oaks, the foreman and the cops got out of their vehicles.
      “I want these trees down by lunchtime,” the foreman said.
      McTiernan stood between the two massive trunks. He was unarmed, disheveled, dressed only in jeans and a white T shirt. His bare feet and rumpled hair made him look young and vulnerable. “It’s not time yet.”
      “It is as far as I’m concerned. You’ve been slowing us down long enough.”
      The bulldozer fired up and began to roll toward the closer oak. McTiernan stepped in front of the tree and faced the machine.

      “For God’s sake,” Abernathy cried. “This is insane!” He started toward McTiernan, but Laramie stepped into his path and caught his arm.
      “Stay out of this.”
      Abernathy could only watch as the bulldozer rolled closer and closer to the figure standing immobile in its path. He felt tension knotting across his shoulders as the bulldozer driver actually crept close enough to bump the dozer blade against McTiernan’s chest and knock him back. McTiernan kept his feet, but a moment later Chandler was on him, throwing a couple of punches before shoving him to the ground and cuffing his hands behind his back. The cop hauled McTiernan back up and dragged him over to the cruiser.
      “Do it!” the foreman called out and the bulldozer roared to life again. McTiernan was silent, rigid, anguish laid bare on his face. It took nearly fifteen minutes for the first oak to yield. As it finally cracked and toppled, McTiernan wrenched himself free of Chandler’s grip. He bent double and vomited, then reeled away, staggering a few steps before sinking to his knees and pressing his forehead against the side of the cops’ car.
      Abernathy yanked his arm free and moved to McTiernan’s side, gripping the young man’s shoulder tightly. Though he remained silent through the other oak’s fall, the farmer trembled with grief. After it was over, the cops drove McTiernan down to the town jail, but the sheriff refused to book him. He ordered the troopers to turn McTiernan loose and they did, perhaps sensing they were on the verge of pushing too hard. The sheriff drove McTiernan to Amelia’s sister’s and left him in his wife’s care. Abernathy hung around his trailer until nearly midnight, certain that McTiernan would come home. He was right and waved down the farmer and his wife down as they drove up the road.
      “I really don’t want to watch you die, Jessup.”
      The young man’s eye was bruised, his lip cut, but he seemed steady again. “You won’t have to, Mr. Abernathy.”
      “See you tomorrow, I guess.”
      McTiernan offered a sad smile. “Thanks again for everything you’ve tried to do.”

      Abernathy made sure he was the first to arrive at the farm the next morning. He parked his car near the ruined oaks and approached the house on foot. As the sun broke over the timber stand and illuminated the side of the white barn, Abernathy stopped in his tracks. Painted in large, neat black letters was a message: I will not bow down to tyranny.
      He knocked at the farmhouse door but got no response, though Jessup’s truck was parked in its usual spot. When the cops arrived they kicked in the door and searched the place, but McTiernan wasn’t there. The foreman called in an excavator and a bulldozer to level the house. As the front wall buckled and peeled away to expose the room where Jessup said he’d been born, the room he and Amelia had painted light blue for their baby boy, Abernathy turned away, unable to bear the sight.
      The house was gone by the end of the day, smashed to rubble and pushed out of the way. Even the fieldstone chimney had been toppled and shoved aside. Work proceeded rapidly at first, the crews laying a wide gravel access road past where the house had stood and up to the corn, but then things started to go wrong. Equipment constantly broke down, slowing work by hours and then by days. The weather turned abysmal, with rain and lightning storms. Two weeks after the house fell, one of the bulldozers was crippled by an engine fire in the middle of the work day. The foreman and the cops blamed McTiernan, but no one had seen him since the night before the demolition. The cops and the sheriff had watched Amelia’s place night and day and the construction company left night security on the site, but McTiernan never turned up.
      The day they started bulldozing the cornfield, a sinkhole opened up at the edge of it and swallowed two machines. There’d never been any indication of instability in any of the surveys, and Abernathy had no answers for the highway commission. A month into the project and already two months behind, the crew doubled their pace but met tangle after tangle. Electrical shorts killed the grader they’d brought in to extend the road bed. Two men were seriously injured when an excavator tipped over in high winds. Finally, a late summer storm washed out the access road up to the farm. Abernathy sent his report to the highway commissioner and the governor, detailing repairs that would have to be made for work to continue.
      He heard nothing for a week, then received an abrupt message informing him that his services were no longer needed, that due to unforeseen unsuitability of the land, the highway would have to be adjusted to the alternate route. He packed up his stuff and headed back to Indianapolis. For a while he called down to the sheriff every few months to check in, but Jessup never reappeared and he eventually stopped calling. He took on a few more acquisition jobs but nothing involving private landowners. At the end of the year he filed for full retirement and left the industry for good.

      Years later, Abernathy was passing through on his way home from a week in the Florida Keys and stopped by the old farm on a whim, not entirely sure why he'd driven up the long and still-unpaved road. The scars from the skid loaders and bulldozers were nearly healed, new trees growing straight and strong to hide the gaps the men had cut into the sky. But no one living, not even the little boy chasing chickens in front of the modest two-story house built atop the foundation of the one Abernathy had seen ruined, would last to see the white oaks restored at the end of the drive. The low, sad stumps hit him like a fist to the gut. So much wasted. The gravel from the access road remained, though the grass had grown up around it again. The cornfield started fifty feet farther back from the house, a small pond filling the sinkhole that had stopped the bulldozers.
      As his car rolled to a stop at the edge of the yard, a small blonde woman stepped out from the shade beside the house, a damp bed sheet still crumpled in her arms. She recognized Abernathy as he got out of the car and her back went straight, the set of her shoulders turning defiant.
      "Amelia," he greeted her, his tone heavier with regret than he'd intended.
      "What do you want?" she asked, her voice pleasant enough with the child so close but her eyes hard as flint.
      "Nothing. I was just in the area and thought I'd come up and see what had happened to the old place."
      "Still here, no thanks to you." She stepped away to clip her sheet to the clothesline, then turned back, arms folded tightly across her chest.
      "Look, I'm sorry for the way it happened. I truly am. I had a job to do."
      "And look how far it got you."
      Abernathy laughed; he couldn't help it. "He won in the end, I guess."
      "Damn straight," she replied, pride evident in the set of her chin.
      Abernathy turned his gaze to the boy who now sat at the edge of the yard, black hair shining in the sun, a hen captured in his skinny embrace. "At what cost, Amelia? Leaving all this behind, was it worth it?"
      She spread her arms wide to encompass the farmstead and the acres beyond. "He didn't leave all this, he saved it. You still don't understand, do you? Jess tried to tell you. The land is our blood. Without it, there's nothing. He did what he had to do."
      The little boy turned the chicken loose and came to stand beside his mother, looking up at Abernathy with curiosity in his pale gray eyes. Amelia rested her hand fondly on his head. “Say hello, Jesse,” she told the child.
      “Hello,” the boy said dutifully.
      “Hello. And I guess goodbye. I didn’t want to upset you, I was just wondering how things were.”
      “We’re fine,” Amelia said, twining her fingers through her boy’s dark curls. “We’re fine.”
      “Well, all the best, then. If you ever need anything the sheriff knows how to get in touch with me.”
      “Goodbye, Mr. Abernathy,” Amelia said, but not unkindly. As Abernathy walked back to the car she called out, “Thank you, by the way. For what you did back then. I know you tried to help.”
      Abernathy smiled sadly. “I only wish I could’ve done more.” A warm breeze rustled through the distant trees and washed over the yard as he walked back to the car, ruffling his hair and carrying with it the barest scent of sweet whiskey.
      He glanced in the rearview mirror as he pulled away. Amelia and Jesse still stood together, the peace of their land wrapping around them. The white barn and its barely-faded message reared up behind them, the peaked roof reaching proudly into the impossibly blue Indiana sky.

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photo taken by Jett Superior and used with permission

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Quick & dirty book reviews

Quick & dirty book reviews


I have recently really enjoyed the short book reviews and recommendations posted by Temerity Jane and Swistle. I've also ripped through seven enjoyable books in the past few months and recognize there's no chance I'll ever sit down and write a full review for each one. And so, some quick & dirty book reviews:

American Canopy: the Role of Trees in the Shaping of a Nation by Eric Rutkow

Pretty much exactly what the title says - this is a history of the US as it relates to the history and management (and mismanagement) of its forests. There's a lot of history of the timber industry and of early city building. It was a little dry but not bad if you like nonfiction of this kind. It did take me quite a long time to get through it, but I didn't feel like it ever dragged.


Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter by Seth Grahame-Smith

I loved Grahame-Smith's Unholy Night so I wanted to give this one a try. I found it quite enjoyable. I have a crap memory for history, so I don't know how much was accurate and how much was embellished for the author's purposes. It was obviously really well-researched and very entertaining. I'm going to watch for the movie on Netflix, too.


The Long Earth by Terry Pratchett & Stephen Baxter

I'm a diehard fan of Terry Pratchett's Discworld series but had never read any of Stephen Baxter's work. I wasn't sure about this one since classic sci-fi is not usually my bag, and the first bit introducing the all-powerful faceless corporation had me worried, but the story picked up pretty quickly and I really liked it. I didn't recognize any definite Pratchett-influence in the book other than a character named Lobsang (a name used in several Discworld books) and there aren't any really funny parts, but this was a solid and enjoyable read. My only big complaint is that I wish the ending had been a little more final. I don't mind an obvious sequel-setup, but I do prefer a decent wrap-up that feels like a stopping point.


The Next Best Thing by Jennifer Weiner

Pretty standard Jennifer Weiner, but recommended if you like her work. I read this one in one day. No horribly traumatizing twist ending. (I'm still not over Certain Girls.)


Wicked Business by Janet Evanovich

This is the second book in JE's Lizzy and Diesel series and was not bad at all. It's what I'd classify as a popcorn book - like a popcorn movie - nothing intellectual or earth-shattering, but decently mindless fluff. I like the characters, the book didn't feel as stale as most of her recent Stephanie Plum books, and Carl the Monkey wasn't nearly as annoying as in the first Wicked book.


The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

This book is wonderful, but awful, but wonderful. Previously I had only read one John Green book (An Abundance of Katherines), which I didn't dislike but didn't love, but so many people that I follow on Twitter L-O-V-E John Green that I wanted to read another. This is a book about a teenage girl with terminal cancer, but it frequently made me laugh out loud. This is the kind of book that makes it obvious that people who refuse to read YA fiction are missing out on some seriously great stuff. It's lovely, beautifully-written, and just about perfect as novels go. I will say as a parent it was VERY hard to think about a kid with cancer and I pretty much wanted to put my child right into a sterile bubble as soon as I finished it, but other than that, no complaints. I'm betting this will turn out to be my favorite book of the year.


Anna Dressed in Blood by Kendare Blake

This is a fantastic creepy ghost story and another one-day read. As much as I love the cover, I kind of wish they'd gone with something less girl-centric just because I worry no teenage boy will want to read it and this is definitely a book for boys or girls (or men or women, for that matter). I'm going to try to get MB to read it since he likes the series Supernatural so much and this had a few similar elements. Overall - very cool, very creepy, the climactic ghost-reveal had me squirming and hand-flapping and emailing the friend who recommended it in ALL CAPS OH MY GOD NOOOOO SO CREEPY. I am kind of easily-incited to that level of creeped-out, so your reactions may vary, but this one gets my full recommendation.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Crafty (not like a fox)

Crafty (not like a fox)


My message board friends have done a Secret Santa exchange for years now, which is always seriously fun. A few years ago we switched to doing Christmas in July to cause less stress on people's holiday budgets, which has worked out really well. It's fabulous to get a really neat present in the middle of the summer. Everyone posts a list of likes and dislikes and ideas and then we draw via Elfster. This year I drew my hilarious friend Rachel and wanted to do a really good job on her gift. She had wine charms on her wish list and she loves anything French, so I set out to make her some French-themed wine charms. I got the base idea from a set of DIY wine charms MB received for Christmas last year from Nie. She drilled holes through various dice from d20 sets and put them on hoop earrings, which works pretty well, but I wanted a more secure ring since the earrings tend to unhook themselves. I ran my specs (thin enough to directly thread beads onto, some kind of closing mechanism that would stay closed) by my mom, she of epic crafting experience, and she found the perfect rings at Hobby Lobby:

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Since they're called stemware hoops, I kind of suspect they're intended to be used to make wine charms, and they definitely were exactly what I wanted. I found some fantastic Eiffel tower charms on Etsy for a ridiculously-reasonable price and ordered ten. These are the charms I got, but I got them from this shop (the exact ones I bought appear to be sold out in her shop right now) and she was awesome. The charms got to me right away, they were exactly what I wanted, and she sent a little sample packet of other cute charms she offers. The most challenging part turned out to be finding pretty non-plastic beads that would fit onto the rings. I ended up finding the perfect beads at the Jo-Ann store - the label says they're 2/0 Czech glass e-beads. I bought one tube of mixed colors and one tube of clear. Then I futzed around with the number of beads, the pattern of beads, the order of color / clear, and after five or six attempts I found a pattern I liked. I was able to pull together sets of three beads in ten different colors from my variety tube, and ta-daaa: DSCF0002
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She also wanted bookmarks that won't fall out of her books. So I googled "bookmarks that stay in books" (seriously) and found this tutorial. I wanted to use a thinner elastic with a less-obvious knot, so I tried using stretch magic, a thin plastic / elastic beading cord. That was a big fail. There wasn't quite enough stretch and the cord was too slippery to hold a knot. I called my mom again and sure enough, she had 1/8" sewing elastic that turned out to be just the thing:

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Instead of knotting the top, I stitched the ends together to make a flatter join and they turned out pretty nice. I sized one for mass market paperbacks, one for trade paperbacks, and one for hardbacks. Maybe her daughter will just end up stealing them for makeshift headbands, but I wanted to try.

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The package was a big hit and I'm still gloating a little over how well the wine charms turned out. Maybe I need to find someone else who likes wine and make more!


Reading:  Wicked Business by Janet Evanovich

Playing:  old mix CDs

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Two and a half

Two and a half


Nico turned two and a half on the 15th and holy cats, is he letting us know. For the past week or so he has been bringing some serious toddler assholery to the table. I hate to say it about my usually-sweet little ball of sunshine, but when it gets to the point where I'm standing over his changing table wailing "Where is my child?"…well, I gotta call that like I see it. I'm trying not to despair because it's probably a phase, it's always a phase. Currently, though, I can't brush his teeth without a huge battle. He'll fight a nap all afternoon and then fall apart long before bedtime. He'll look right at me and laugh and then do something he's been firmly told not to do. Like bounce himself off the glass shower door. (No, no, and hell no.) He likes to make his own choices, which I am totally fine with, and I'll even allow a mind-change. But not three or four or five. Not "Gray socks. Red socks. Gray socks. GRAY SOCKS! NO, RED SOCKS RED SOCKS REEEEEED BUWAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!" Not that this has ever happened to me while my child thrashed around on the floor and tried to kick me in the head to escape the horrible oppression of the socks he insisted he wanted to wear. (Now you ALL want a baby, don't you? DON'T YOU?)

He also has not been eating well and keeps insisting he's not hungry, that he only wants to drink milk. We'll offer him every healthy and semi-healthy option available and he'll stubbornly maintain "Not hungee yet. Just mulk." I'm trying not to get twisted around the axle of it because I never want food to be a battle, but he's definitely straining the limits of my "he'll eat what he needs when he needs it" parenting philosophy. He's not wasting away and he still seems full of energy, so for now I guess we'll just keep offering him food until he decides he wants some. Seriously, though, kid…would it kill you to eat a sandwich and ease your mother's mind?

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My baby is getting to be a big boy. With ridiculous eyelashes.


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We managed to mostly circumvent the teeth-brushing meltdown by giving him a grownup toothbrush. We'll see if it works again tomorrow night.


Despite all this, despite how utterly exhausting he can be, two and a half is also kind of awesome. He's full of words and ideas, he's trying new things and gaining confidence. The other day at the library he made a little paper camping tent, which then became a cake, which then became "the biggest piece of huckleberry pie" from a Pooh story he likes. After long months of utter indifference he now loves to scribble in his coloring books with crayons and will tell me all the colors, including the fancy ones like dandelion and "red purple" (red violet). He usually says thank you without prompting and sometimes spontaneously wraps his arms around my neck, lays his head on my shoulder, and says "I yuv you." He may be trying his hardest to break me against the rocks of his tiny will, but at least the voyage is still pretty amazing.

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Thursday, July 12, 2012

What I was doing instead of posting

What I was doing instead of posting


1. Cooking in a record heat wave (which thankfully broke before this week's work summer camp).

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2. Taking Nico to his first 4th of July fireworks show. He had a good time running around outside but was not a fan of the actual fireworks. Oddly, it seemed to be the flashes and not the sound that bothered him. He spent the whole show with his hands firmly over his eyes. He didn't cry, though!

3. Baking banana bread with Nico. It took twice as long as it would to do it by myself, but he was so proud to be helping.

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4. Growing gigantor squash plants

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5. Witnessing transformation of tiny tadpole into the tiniest, cutest, squee-inducingest frog of all time

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6. Writing seven pages of fiction that I may eventually be brave enough to post here. Hooray!

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

backyard birds

Backyard birds


We have hawks in our backyard! Well, not in our backyard, but hanging around the general area. I first noticed them earlier this Spring and deduced that they have a nest in the gigantic sweet gum tree across the side street from our garage. I'd hear them chattering and calling and sometimes see a parent bird coming and going. Two or three times one of the parents perched on the power pole by our garage while I was working in the garden - never when I had my camera, naturally. Every now and then I'd see a hawk fly by high overhead while I was out in the garden or yard. On Memorial Day I saw two of them bickering as they flew across, then a week or so later I saw one still obviously a little shaky on its wings taking a practice flight while a bunch of smaller birds followed along, bitching loudly. I didn't see any sign for a bit, then I saw one swoop over the yard with some kind of small prey in its talons, then nothing.

I realized I'd probably missed my chance to catch a photo and started to think that they'd moved on from the neighborhood. But sometime last week our next door neighbor asked if I'd seen the hawks around, "eating the little birds for breakfast," which renewed my hope that they hadn't left just yet. Which brings us to last night, when I looked up from dinner and saw a familiar silhouette perched on the power pole. I grabbed my camera and went outside and there were four hawks on the power lines above our yard! I think one was the mother and the rest were her nearly-grown chicks…they were all about the same size, but the suspected-mother flew off and then called back and forth with the remaining three from a nearby tree for quite a while. I got the best shots I could (which admittedly are pretty terrible…my camera is not built for NatGeo style zooming) and went back inside to finish eating. Happily, one hawk came back later while I was out doing very unfair things to our really annoying overgrown magnolia bush and Nico was out playing, so I got to show him the hawk.

"See that bird up there, buddy? That's a hawk!"

"It's a hawk! Hawk say whooo whooo whooo."

"Actually, hawks say Eeeee! Eeeee! Eeeee!

"EEEEEE! EEEEEE! Hawk say EEEEEE!"

After staring at them and comparing hawk calls on All About Birds, I think they're red-shouldered hawks. I'm kind of ridiculously geeked out about them. I'm not much of a birdwatcher, but birds of prey are just cool.

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Not the best quality (sorry), but here's a short clip of them calling:



And for fun, Nico "helping" me water the garden the other night:




Reading:  The Long Earth by Terry Pratchett and Stephen Baxter

Playing:  Nico's mix

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Thrifty

Thrifty


I haven't been thrift store shopping in a very long time. Partially lack of time, partially lack of cash. So yesterday afternoon when evil ducky and I were google chatting and she invited Nico and I to hit a few Goodwills with her this morning, I was eager to go. I had some concerns that I'd used up my bargain shopping mojo for the weekend, because that morning I'd seen this little table out at someone's half-assed yard sale on my parents' block. I circled back to the house for some cash and bought it for $15. It's brand new, the chairs still twist-tied together, with the box and its $40 price tag included.

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But I pushed my concerns aside, Nico and I pocketed the last of our consignment profit money, and we headed out this morning. It seems we had a little bit of mojo left after all. We only made it to two stores before MB and his mom got back to town and it was time for lunch, but we made the most of our time. At the first store, I found two Nico shirts:

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I pretty much never buy sports shirts, but this one was clever enough to win me over. That's a Pachycephalosaurus head-butting a soccer ball. The text says "Bay Ridge Behemoths Soccer - We use our heads." Come on, now, that is great.

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We also had a near-catastrophe when Nico left his blankie on top of a rack of shirts and didn't tell anyone. Thankfully I noticed it was gone before we left and I speed-walked out to the car with panic churning in my stomach before coming back inside and spotting the blankie tucked up on top of the clothes. Crisis averted, holy shitballs.

We really hit it big at the second store. I found this nerdily awesome shirt for N (though it's going to grate on me unceasingly that 'habitat' is spelled wrong at the bottom):
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I turned down Nico's request for a (tacky, hot pink, much-too-large) shirt with butterflies on it, but agreed to drop two bucks on this for his playroom wall:

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I wish the previous owner had just framed it instead of sticking it on a canvas and decoupaging ribbon onto it, but I liked it enough to overlook the semi-questionable presentation. The vintage, realistic butterfly drawings are neat and I was pleased that Nico seemed to really like them as well.

Evil ducky gets all the credit for the showpiece of the day's shopping, though. She found this kid-sized sleeping bag in a bin of blankets and drapes. It's made of super-soft fabric, looked barely used except for a broken zipper, and the little tires are velcroed on and can be removed / reattached. I paid the princely sum of three dollars for it and my mom has already fixed the zipper. I can't wait to give it to Nico…I don't think I'll wait for our camping trip in September.
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Also, I came home to this and nearly died of cute:

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Monday, June 25, 2012

Guaranteed method for ensuring spousal alertness


"Oh, by the way…I saw a spider in the shower this morning. It got away before I had a chance to squash it."


Reading:  Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter by Seth Grahame-Smith

Playing:  Nico's playlist on my phone, by his constant demand request

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Learning to say yes

Learning to say yes


I've somehow managed to avoid some of the classic mothering pitfalls. I don't struggle overmuch with guilt. I don't spend a lot of time angsting over the recently-trendy topic of "having it all" or torture myself over my work / life balance. Something I have had to consciously teach myself, though, is to say yes more. Not in a spoiling way or a going back on the rules way, but in a "let go of the Type A personality" way. If Nico asks for one more bedtime story and it's not much too late, what's one more story? If he wants to scribble all over his coloring page with every green crayon he owns instead of mixing it up a little, no worries. If he does silly things with his toys but isn't tearing them up, more power! And the biggest one lately, if he wants to run through the garden hose every evening…well…I think that's okay.

At first it was kind of contrary to what I thought we should do. He'd get messy, I'd have to change him into a whole new outfit. Then I realized, who cares? He's a kid, he's fully washable. He has many, many outfits. And even better, if we go out pretty close to bedtime, I can just strip off his wet clothes and put him straight into his pajamas. Sure, it's messy. Sometimes it's inconvenient. But ten, fifteen, twenty years from now when we both look back, what are we going to remember more fondly? The nights he went calmly to bed with dry hair or the times he got to run wild in the water? I think I already know that answer.

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